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Post by PNP: WN DDUWSF on Nov 10, 2017 21:35:42 GMT
- making the other parent apply to court to see the children
- putting the children through social worker interviews for no good reason
- dictating the terms by which the other parent will see them
- refusing to co-draft child arrangements/shared parenting plan
- getting lawyers to threaten less time with the children unless other parent cooperates or using time as a bargaining tool
- refusing to discuss and agree basic needs like routines, medication, school choices, school events, parent consultation, doctors, clothing, activities
- refusing to "allow" school pickup
- refusing to share significant events like Christmas
- late cancellation of agreed dates
- unilaterally dictating children's calendars
- refusing to agree forward schedule of events/dates
- refusing to communicate other than through lawyers
- criticising the other parent and partner
- criticising gifts, presents or clothes and other items bought by the other parent
- undermining the other parent's decisions and parenting
- placing the children in the centre of arguments
- discussing age inappropriate issues with children like finances
- where there's more than one child targeting one child first not to attend then pressurising
- colluding with parents of children's friends to organise events during the other parent's time then saying they can go without consulting them leaving it to child to resolve
- not telling the other parent about diary clashes
- arranging pickup in car parks and other alien environments
- creating conflict during pickup
- using hostile impersonal terminology to refer to the other parent's time to imply it is less worthy eg contact or visitation or even babysitting
- making the children scared of the other parents by threatening to withdraw affection if the children show affection for them or telling lies about them
- referring to children as "best friends" and treating them like adults, a form of grooming
- attacking and verbally abusing children for liking the other parent
- telling children they are disloyal for liking the other parent and punishing them
- linking financial discussions to child arrangements
- supervising calls or communication with the other parent
- criticising the other parent in front of the childrens friends and their parents
- encouraging family and friends to criticise the other parent
- creating hostility during children's events attended by the other parent
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Post by Adey on Nov 12, 2017 14:47:15 GMT
- new partners of either party draping themselves over the children in excessive and inflammatory shows of affection in front of the other biological parent
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Post by PnP-Dad on Nov 13, 2017 19:02:13 GMT
I think you guys have pretty much covered it. However its still mind boggling why such a form of abuse continues to be unrecognised
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Post by Elaine on Nov 15, 2017 20:22:30 GMT
Then of course there is the ultimate: blatantly refusing to follow the authority of the judge by flatly refusing to comply with a court order claiming they "won't force their children to do anything they don't want to do"
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Post by PnP-Dad on Dec 4, 2017 11:20:14 GMT
Elaine, I get that reply/comment all the time. But I'm sure my ex takes them to school when they dont want to go. Its bonkers isnt it. A parent would get fined if they didnt take their kid to school, but deny contact with the other parent and nothing!!!!
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