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Post by PnP-Dad on Nov 8, 2017 19:39:53 GMT
I'm interested to know how ppl manage/deal with PA on a day to day basis. By this I mean in the context of mental health. How people cope etc?
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Post by EFultz on Nov 14, 2017 0:44:49 GMT
Therapist recently said, "Even if we don't go, everybody likes to be invited to the party." So my husband keeps inviting my stepson to everything. He is so strong to endure all the NO answers, but he believes in never giving up. Mental health benefits = effort exerted to build that bridge.
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Post by PnP-Dad on Nov 14, 2017 7:49:53 GMT
I agree with that approach. I send letters that never get opened. The ex tells me the kids 'dont' want them. I used to do it every week, but it began to take its toll on my mental health. So I now just send them gift cards every couple of weeks with shorter messages in them. But you are right it does take its toll when continuously refused.
What I and my parents have done (who are also alienated), have started up a savings account for each of the kids. So we explain to them in these letters (that they dont get!) that instead of giving them presents that they dont get given, we all add into each savings account on every birthday Christmas etc. As useless as my Cafcass Case Manager is, she said this was a positive message, as it is telling the kids I will always be there for them.
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