What are the signs of parent alienation?

[PNP: WN DDUWSF]

• making the other parent apply to court to see the children
• putting the children through social worker interviews for no good reason
• dictating the terms by which the other parent will see them
• refusing to co-draft child arrangements/shared parenting plan
• getting lawyers to threaten less time with the children unless other parent cooperates or using time as a bargaining tool
• refusing to discuss and agree basic needs like routines, medication, school choices, school events, parent consultation, doctors, clothing, activities
• refusing to "allow" school pickup
• refusing to share significant events like Christmas
• late cancellation of agreed dates
• unilaterally dictating children's calendars
• refusing to agree forward schedule of events/dates
• refusing to communicate other than through lawyers
• criticising the other parent and partner
• criticising gifts, presents or clothes and other items bought by the other parent
• undermining the other parent's decisions and parenting
• placing the children in the centre of arguments
• discussing age inappropriate issues with children like finances
• where there's more than one child targeting one child first not to attend then pressurising
• colluding with parents of children's friends to organise events during the other parent's time then saying they can go without consulting them leaving it to child to resolve
• not telling the other parent about diary clashes
• arranging pickup in car parks and other alien environments
• creating conflict during pickup
• using hostile impersonal terminology to refer to the other parent's time to imply it is less worthy eg contact or visitation or even babysitting
• making the children scared of the other parents by threatening to withdraw affection if the children show affection for them or telling lies about them
• referring to children as "best friends" and treating them like adults, a form of grooming
• attacking and verbally abusing children for liking the other parent 
• telling children they are disloyal for liking the other parent and punishing them
• linking financial discussions to child arrangements
• supervising calls or communication with the other parent
• criticising the other parent in front of the childrens friends and their parents
• encouraging family and friends to criticise the other parent
• creating hostility during children's events attended by the other parent

[Adey]

- new partners of either party draping themselves over the children in excessive and inflammatory shows of affection in front of the other biological parent

[PnP-Dad]

I think you guys have pretty much covered it. However its still mind boggling why such a form of abuse continues to be unrecognised

[Elaine]

Then of course there is the ultimate: blatantly refusing to follow the authority of the judge by flatly refusing to comply with a court order claiming they "won't force their children to do anything they don't want to do"

[PnP-Dad]

Elaine, I get that reply/comment all the time. But I'm sure my ex takes them to school when they dont want to go. Its bonkers isnt it. A parent would get fined if they didnt take their kid to school, but deny contact with the other parent and nothing!!!!